My Husband Is Not "The One"

In the last 10 years of my life there has been one question that I have frequently been asked. “How did you know your husband was ‘THE ONE’?” For the last 10 years of my life, my answer has been the same: “He’s not”.

Let me start off by saying, I do not believe it is impossible to have a“soul mate” or “the one”. However, I also believe more often than not most people have a few “soul mates” that would meet The Godly Standard (blog coming soon) and could successfully fill the position.You may even notice a common trait (hopefully it is a good one, if not, fall on your knees to the Lord and let Him help you figure it out!) among those who interest you. I also believe with each mate comes different graces, different challenges and different lifestyles; yet all could be very satisfying.

Being the mother of a three year old girl, my emotions and intellect debate about letting her watch these princess movies. The Princess needs to be rescued by her one true love …Prince Charming. He rescues her. He kisses her. They live happily ever after (whatever the heck that means!).  On the other hand, I don’t want to give her the impression that you have to kiss a few frogs (or like her mother; a few frogs, rabbits, dogs and rats LOL!)  Do I want her to have this idea that is simply unrealistic? To build her relationship expectations around an unrealistic idea that cannot be measured up to?

I LOVE my husband ERNST COCHY  aka @ecochy ! He is my best friend, my favorite person to talk to, to hang out with and he is my gift from God.  He loves me, even when I’m not easy to love.  He challenges me. He covers me. He leads my family.  But he is not “the one“ who my joy is centered around, completes me or makes up my world. The idea that “Prince Charming”, “The One” or your “Soul Mate” will fill the void in your heart will lead to disappointment and pain.  That void can only be filled with the satiating love and intimate relationship of God through Jesus Christ. My husband is the most powerful natural expression and manifestation of God’s love.  We chose each other.  We chose to forsake all others. We chose to do this thing called life together as a team and serve God.  

If you are desiring a mate, I encourage you to trust and pray to your heavenly Father:

Father, thank you for rooting and grounding me in your unconditional, strengthening and fulfilling love according to Ephesians 3. I cannot live without it. Lord, I thank you for my future husband/wife.  I thank you that S/he will be one after Your own heart and will be all that I need in a spouse. I thank you for this season of preparation in me. Lord, I ask you and believe You to guide me by the peace of Your Holy Spirit inside of me. All the glory of my marriage will go to you! In the name of Jesus. AMEN!