I wanted to share this with you so bad, but I couldn't put it into words... so I put it in video!!! Hmmm, maybe I'll do this more often....
I hope you were blessed! I love you sincerely.
Lashan
Stepping From Behind The Shadows
I have seen it over and over again, in my life and the life of other wives. We get so caught up in our "roles" as wife, mother, daughter, minister ... completing the daily actions on automatic. Mistaking "duty completed" for "purpose fulfilled". Somewhere in the process of "everyday life" we step behind the shadow of the fullness of God's purpose for our life instead of in front of it. A shadow, not allowing our light to truly shine in all we do. Sporadically feeling the passion and happiness of life only because it is on the "To Do List". How does that happen?
I was having a very candid conversation about this enigma with a sister of mine. She is a wife, mother, career woman and a work in progress too! Here is what we concluded thus far:
1) Happiness is your responsibility. Single or married, somehow we can get caught up in thinking that having a husband will make you happy, and it won't ! Don't get me wrong marriage is definitely a blessing that God uses to add happiness to you. However there is a deeper level of joy that only Jesus can give.
2) You can have it all... Just not all at the same time. God did not make us linear, simple beings. Just as we are different things to different people ( a daughter, a friend , a mother, a wife) . So are you at different stages, in different seasons in your life. Respect the season and flow with its appointed grace.
3) Grow, evolve, elevate ... I remember the first year my little girl went to school. After being primarily an at home mom for 3 years, I found myself in a panic, wondering what was my purpose. Then God told me to take a breath and get my life! He reminded me that the call on my life has not changed. He also reminded me how He impressed upon me to invest in myself still, even in "mommy" season. I didn't obey, I figured that wasn't priority. Fast forward to my mini break down moment... Who's fault was it? We must develop ourselves; the gifts, talents, relationships, etc.that God has blessed us with. Invest in our own lives. To serve effectively you must be the best you, you can be.
4) Don't forget romance...don't forget the person our husband fell in love with. The light hearted , fun, adventurous, maybe even quirky woman who captured his heart. Remember to be just you.
5) Keep first things, first ... Always make your prayer life and time in the word priority. I don't know how to explain it. It is supernatural. When you make God your priority everything else falls into place.
Love you sincerely ... Until next time !!!
Friends To The End?
I’m noticing a trend that isn’t settling with me. It is the “God meant for people to reject you” trend; "justifying" why people don't have any friends, are lonely, and should accept it as a cross to bear. Although this can be true to a very small degree, fulfilling friendships are important to God (Ecs. 4: 9-12). There are different reasons why some friendships fail. Sometimes love, patience and forgiveness needs to be exercised. Othertimes communication needs to be clear. Sometimes it's them. And sometimes it's you (that's another blog)! Then there is a need to understand and embrace the different seasons, purposes and levels that friendships can be.
I have been “rejected” numerous times. In the midst of my hurt, God opened my eyes to a perceptive that has given me peace and allowed me to really love people unafraid. I remembered reading the account of Jesus in the Garden of Gethsemeny (Mathew 26:36-46; Mark14:32-42; Luke 22:39-46). I cannot imagine the anguish He felt knowing the torture His body was about to go thru, the abandonment He was about to experience from the One who has been His everything; and the shame He was about to endure. He entered that garden needing support and assurance. Before entering the garden, some disciples he left at the gate, others went into the garden with Him and then finally He went a little further alone to pray. A few things I find amazing about this moment:
1) Jesus understood the depths of His relationships. He understood and embraced those people who were His aquantinces and His friends. They all "hung-out", however He understood only few could go in with Him.
2) Jesus withdrew on His own accord. People, no matter how well intentioned, are not meant to go with you all the way. There is a place where you must go alone with your Father. It is in that place where He can speak to you and strengthen you in ways that only He can. NOTE: this is not a pass to cut people off for the sake of “getting closer to God"!
3) Jesus didn't take it personally when He came back from praying and found them sleeping. He understood that their spirit was willing but the flesh was weak. He didn't allow bitterness to set in.
More often than not, people are not “haters” but they are not designed to walk your walk. They aren't designed to go specifically where you were meant to go.You were intricately created for this specific purpose, this specific time, this specific combination of purpose, that has never been, is not, and will never be duplicated. No one can walk your walk. That is a burden you can't put on anyone; wife, husband, mother, father, friend, sister ...they were not designed for that walk!
More often than not, people are not “haters” but they are not designed to walk your walk. They aren't designed to go specifically where you were meant to go.You were intricately created for this specific purpose, this specific time, this specific combination of purpose, that has never been, is not, and will never be duplicated. No one can walk your walk. That is a burden you can't put on anyone; wife, husband, mother, father, friend, sister ...they were not designed for that walk!
There is an expectation of unconditional love, faithfulness and loyalty on people that only God can fulfill. If we really embrace this understanding in love, how many hearts could be healed, relationships repaired, bitterness uprooted, love, patience and forgiveness exercised, confidence grounded and established? Let us grow to love unhindered and unafraid. Will you get your feelings hurt? Probably! But because you have the right perspective you will be able to dust yourself off. Neither regretting giving the love you gave nor blocking the ones to come!
A Feminist Living In a Christian World
The term feminism evokes many emotions from different people. Some understand feminism as the movement that liberated women from the cages of their houses and from the underfoot of their husbands. While others see it as the demon that destroyed the structure of the family and deteriorated the dynamics of society's moral fiber. Where do I fall on the line? First let us define the term feminism :
1. the doctrine advocating social, political, and all other rights of women equal to those of men.
2. an organized movement for the attainment of such rights for women.
With that being said, I am a woman who advocates for the rights of woman to be equal to those of men. Why did I not simply say whether I am a feminist or not?
The term feminism/feminist has taken a different definition than what was intended. Somewhere in the interpretation of the definition society has determined that you can not be a feminist and embrace the unique differences and roles that makes a woman a woman. It seems that you can not be a feminist and be a strong, non- religious, Christian. You can not be a feminist and be submissive to your husband. You can not be a feminist and not be ok with women dressing anyway she wants no matter how un-modest it is. You can not be a feminist and be an at home wife and mother. You can not be a feminist and have control over your own body to not spread it around. You can not be a feminist and really live for Jesus. I thought the whole point was to have choices that allowed you to be free and to be the authentic and happy you?
I understand how religion has been and still is used to oppress women. A woman's value is placed under a man's but right above cattle. I thank God everyday I am not caught up in religion! God and His word (the bible) is not in the business of religion but relationship! Starting at the creation of woman, God valued us so much that the man was not worthy enough to witness the God - like creation of us! So he slept. Women were used throughout the bible as leaders, game changers and ministers ( e.g. Esther, Deborah, Rehab, Aquilla). Jesus validated and elevated the value of women during His earthly ministry. He validated the valueless, like Mary Magdeline. He saved the unforgivable like the woman caught in adultery. He healed the untouchable like the woman with the issue of blood. He showed the glory of His resurrection first to the women of His ministry, not the men!
Do I choose feminism? I choose to lead my life by the guidance of the one who created me with purpose. I choose not to be confined by the opinions of society, but be free under divine right. I choose to be an advocate for all women to lead their lives into true happiness in their family, career, education, ministry, and purpose. What do you choose?
A Page For Wives About Bitterness
Do not hold bitterness against your husband. When you do, you plant weeds of anger, confusion and unrighteous judgement which are very difficult to uproot (Hebrews 12:14-15). When you let bitterness take root, you are allowing it to eat away at yourself and the happiness that you should be experiencing with your husband. Don't you want to be happy and light hearted? Doesn't it take so much effort to hold that grudge against him?
Lastly, bitterness is a blockade to what God wants to do in your husband. He is so preoccupied with "the cold shoulder", "the silent treatment" or that heavy feeling he gets from you ... It makes it very difficult for him to hear from God. Why? The attitude that your bitterness produces is a distraction! (Hmmm, this really puts 1 Peter 3:1 in perspective )
Give your hurt, resentment, disappointment over to Him. Let God work it out of you. Trust Him and trust the work that He is doing in the both of you.
I love you sincerely ... Lashan
Notes to My Younger Self
Have you ever thought "if I knew then, the things I know now..." ? I have. These are the notes I would have left myself.
Age 5 :
Daddy loves you, he does. It's him not you. He has things in his soul to workout. It is safer this way. God loves you too much... He's protecting you. Daddy will come back to you in due time.
Age 10:
You are not too dark! You are not too skinny ! Your hair is not too nappy! Your nose is not too wide! God wonderfully and thoughtfully made you perfectly beautiful, smart and amazing ! You have a lot of lives to touch.
Age 16:
Walk away ... He's nice , but God has better for you ... at the right time. Somethings you can't get a 'do over'.
Age 18: See note from age 10
Age 20: Those random moments of what hell must be like is real! Keep searching . Don't worry, you're on the right path. Jesus is ready to meet you right where you are.
Age 21:
... told you ... HALLELUJAH !!! Welcome to the Kingdom Daughter of God! Life gets a whole lot more interesting ... Hold on tight!!!
Age 21:
You have been praying, reading and wanting to hear His voice. Now you have ... Leave your boyfriend! Obedience is better than sacrifice. You will not be unequally yolked with an unbeliever. It will hurt and you will cry, but you will have peace about it ... trust God!
Age 23:
This guy Ernst is a good friend. He is going to be your best male friend for a long time.
July 24th 2004 (Age 25):
Ok, so he's a bit more than a friend. But you weren't ready to hear it then!
Age 26:
You didn't make a mistake!!! You guys are just going through a rough period. Lean on God, be quick to forgive, learn to really love ... It gets better!
Age 29:
Conceiving has been difficult, but Gods promises are yes and amen. Keep believing, keep confessing a little while longer. Your reward will be everything you dreamed of and more!
September 7th 2010 (Age 31):
I told you! She is going to bring so much joy to your life ... You are blessed and highly favored! Btw, don't worry about starting Life Church in 5 days ... God got this!
Age 33:
Losing your dad and your pregnancy ... I'm sorry... I don't know why things happened like this. But God will soon show you His grace and protection through it all. You will move pass this by the strength of His might!
Present Self: Ministry has been AMAZING ... Ready for the next 30 years?!?! God is going to blow your mind!!! Ready ... Set ... GO!
We Made It To 10 Years?!?!
I still can't believe we just celebrated our 10th year of marriage ( it only feels like 5)!!! There was a time when I didn't think we were going to make it to the third year! When you have two strong personalities learning to become one, that doesn't always happen smoothly. The enemy was using our ' storming stage ' to convince us that we made a mistake... we married the wrong person. We were going to be miserable the rest of our lives, trapped together. THE DEVIL IS A LIAR !!!! Ten years later I am a blessed woman to love Ernst Cochy in such a special way and to be loved by him. Has our relationship been perfect ... NOT EVEN CLOSE ... LOL ( it is a good place when you can laugh at challenges past). But it is continually in progressive progress, literally as the bible promises "from glory to glory".
After 10 years of marriage, what would I say to a married couple, an engaged couple, single person that will one day marry? :
Keep Jesus in the center of your marriage: Trust Him and Listen to Him! God has the best interest of you individually, your spouse individually and your marriage as a whole; all at the same time. God would never tell you anything to hurt you or put you in a bad position. He will tell you things that will require you to put your flesh down, challenge you. However, you must know and trust His purest intent is to place all parties involved in the best possible position to grow to a higher level together. As you tap into His grace (supernatural ability) He will do what you can't do on your own in your relationship. This is what it means to trust God!
Be ready to change! Your marriage is the main conduit God will use to refine you. Husbands are commanded to love their wives as Christ loves the church. Wives are commanded to submit to their own husbands as unto The Lord. These directives require a high level of sacrifice, commitment, forgiveness and patience that you can not experience in any other relationship except marriage. You can not remain the same when you are called to grow!
Decide to be committed! Committed to the covenant; committed to loving deeper, committed to figuring out how to be happy together!
I love you with the most sincerest love ...until next time!
Sweet Potato and Black Bean Patties
As a busy wife, mom and minister I'm always looking for healthy, easy and QUICK homemade meals for my family! I LOVE all things made of sweet potatoes! They are incredibly healthy, filling and tastes amazing! I hope you enjoy ... Let me know what you think!
3 large cooked and skinned sweet potatoes
2/3 can drained black beans
1 ½ cup bread crumbs
2 beaten eggs
Garlic powder (to taste)
Onion powder (to taste)
Salt (to taste)
Black Pepper (to taste)
Optional: substitute 1/2 cup bread crumbs for 1/2 cup cooked quinoa
Combine all ingredients into a bowl, except bread crumbs and/or quinoa. Fold until most of the sweet potato lumps are out. Then add bread crumbs/quinoa and lightly fold in ( bread crumbs/quinioa should be very visible, coating the mixture). Divide into 8 equal sized balls. Place them in heated coconut oil. Flatten down to a thin patty about ¼ of an inch. Fry both sides until crispy brown.
Serve and Enjoy!!!
You Are Strong Enough
One morning I found myself feeling pressed, unsettled and frankly aggravated. I was like Joseph from the bible. God showed me glimpses of His glory for my life, but everything around me was so contrary. It seemed like every time I was about to go to that next level, I would be pushed back two. I was in a season of transition. This particular morning I was going to pray my typically emotional "God help me" ...."God don't you see me?" prayers; but then the Holy Spirit stepped in. He led me out of my emotions into the truth! I began to thank God for this transition season and trust in what He was doing in me. Then He opened my eyes to a revelation that compelled me to share it on Facebook and it blesses me to this day:
" I'm amazed how right before something reaches its best state it goes thru great pain. The olive ... grounded, smashed and pressurized ... to become the oil that the world can't live without. The mustard seed ... buried alone, in a dark, hot, place before its shell is ripped open from the inside out ... then flourishes into a huge, beautiful tree that provides food, shade and shelter. The caterpillar ... imprisoned in a dark, lonely shell, where it digests its own body from the inside out ... to become a glorious butterfly that the world stares at in awe and for inspiration. Jesus right before going to the cross ... on His knees praying that the torture of the cross could pass Him, so much so that He sweated like drops of blood from His body, He endured the torture ... now and forever He is the King of Glory to whom every knee will bend to and tongue will confess! Don't hate this transition season, there is greatness right beyond. Trust God in what He is doing in you. Trust God to strengthen you just as He sent an angel to strengthen Jesus. Trust God, He made the mustard seed, olive and caterpillar strong enough to survive the transition season ... So has He made you! "
I encourage you to rejoice in hope, speak life (see daily confessions below), be patient in this tribulation and be consistent in prayer. All the while trusting that after this period of suffering (transition) that God in all His grace and love for you is and will fully restore, confirm, strengthen and establish you! (Romans 12:12, 1 Peter 5:10)
Daily Confessions:
All things are working together for my good, because I love Him! (Romans 8:28)
I am at the right place at the right time. Jesus has opened the right doors to me and He has closed the right doors for me. (Revelation 3:7-8)
God is always with me and will never leave me. (Hebrews 13:5)
Like Joseph, I prosper wherever I go and every situation I am in because The Lord is with me.
(Genesis 39: 1-6)
Sticks And Stones ...
When I first read this verse I remember thinking “Yes, I have a shot! I am called by God… I have a purpose … I am important!” I was that percentage of people that did not grow up with a healthy self esteem. The ‘world’ called me many things … “too dark” “too skinny” “too big of a nose” ‘too nappy of a hair” “too ordinary to be special” “too invisible to be seen” “too typical to be waited for” and my personal favorite “too imperfect to be loved”. The ‘world’ let me know, in no uncertain terms, that I was not special enough for unconditional and unwavering love. “Love" came at a high cost. Be happy with what you get! In enters insecurity. The thing about insecurity, it hides in the crevices of your heart. It hides behind the motives of why you do the things you do. Are you getting that degree because you felt God is leading you or because you think this degree can get you a good job? Are you “delaying” the start of that business because the Holy Spirit led you or because you “know” it’s going to fail? Are you in that relationship because you feel the peace of God or because you are not worthy of better? Are you sleeping with that person because they are your spouse? Or is it because you are “doing your thing” really looking for some belonging and acceptance for the moment? Are you refusing to pursue peace with your spouse (by submitting to your husband or dwell with understanding with your wife) because you must assert and validate your stature in the marriage?
Insecurity is a bondage that will strangle you and this world out of the greatness God has planted inside of you!
One day I made a decision to believe and convince myself of God’s love for me (Ephesians 2: 4-10). His love that is unconditional, that doesn’t cost me anything, that thinks the best of me in all my mess and all my greatness, that wants the best for me and that will lead me into the best …if I trust Him. If you battle with insecurity, first thing is first, let God’s love settle you. Let His word convince you, if the world has called you:
Foolish …God chose you!
Weak …God chose you!
Nobody …God chose you!
Ugly …God chose you!
Stupid …God chose you!
Abused, exploited, and used up ….GOD CHOSE YOU!!!
God chose YOU to be good to (Romans 8:32). God chose YOU for a purpose (Ephesians 2:10). God chose YOU to succeed (Isaiah 41:10). God chose YOU to be significant on this earth (Matthew 5:13-16). GOD CHOSE YOU TO LOVE!!! (1 John 4:19).
Giving It Away
I began to sing (my humble attempt ) "... my life is not my own, to You I belong, I give myself, I give myself away ..." . And I began to give everything that makes up myself "away" to Him, one by one.
You must understand something about me. There are things ( wealth, health, more children) and people ( hubbie, daughter, friends, Life Church) that I love , desire and want. Sometimes I love and desire them so much that I can feel they are becoming more important than God. My emotions and intellect forgets Who gave them to me. They forget Who wants me to have them!
So, as I was "giving them away" to Him (because He is worthy and my world is safe in His hands) the Lord led me to receive by faith the very same things I'm "giving away" to Him! I LOVE my Jesus! He loves me so uniquely and perfectly!
FYI : JESUS LOVES YOU so uniquely and perfectly too! I encourage you to trust Him and "give it away" to Him...Mark 10:29-30 The Voice (VOICE) Jesus: 29 That is true. And those who have left their houses, their lands, their parents, or their families for My sake, and for the sake of this good news 30 will receive all of this 100 times greater than they have in this time—houses and farms and brothers, sisters, mothers, and children, along with persecutions—and in the world to come, they will receive eternal life.
Be The Girlfriend to Be The Wife
A few weeks ago I was talking to my girlfriend of over 15 years. We have known each other thru the worst of times and the best of times. She was telling me of a friend she knew that was in an “unofficial relationship” exclusively for about 2 years. In my head I was thinking “What kind of foolishness is this?!” But then my girlfriend made a statement that shifted the dynamics of the conversation. She said “I’ve been trying to tell her, if she wants to be the wife she needs to start acting like the girlfriend!” This girl was giving him what he did not earn, had no boundaries and wasn't respecting "the girlfriend code"!
That afternoon we painfully reminisced, mourned in our souls for the time lost, the shame incurred, the pit we had to crawl out of on already bruised hands and knees and the challenges we still fight today as married women (blog coming soon). Why? Because no one told us about being “the girlfriend”. But then I felt the grace of Abba, Father! We began to get excited and celebrated how far God has brought us. He is the one who bandaged our bloody knees, threw us a strong rope and pulled us out as we began to climb! God brought me to this place, miles from the pit, to have this discussion about being “the girlfriend” that no one talked about with us.
Girlfriend Rule # 1 – Don’t Throw Your Pearls to Swine
Your Body, Time and Soul (mind, will and emotions) are precious pearls not to be taken lightly ( Matthew 7:6). When you are dating or in an exclusive relationship you should spend reasonable amounts of time and emotions on your boyfriend. But that does not mean your life suddenly stops or slows down or changes negatively. Your significant other needs to understand what type of person you are and the world you live in. Your worlds have to make sense together. You give your body to no man except your spouse, period. God made many treasures of the earth like diamonds, attainable by digging and working to uncover. That is why diamonds, rubies, emeralds are so precious to man today. Aren’t you more precious than jewels?…YES! I said it once and I’ll say it again… A man will not respect what he didn’t work for! And bottom line, God said not to do it (1 Thessalonians 4:3). Maybe, just maybe God knows a little something more than our emotions in this area. Maybe, He wants to save us from “mourning after” in the “morning after”. Maybe, He wants our wedding night to be all that it can be and amazing as it should be.
Girlfriend Rule # 2 – Get Real
Amid the mess of my “girlfriend” years, I learned to shift From Likable to Lovable. I got real with myself in practical and spiritual ways. Did I really love myself? Was I healed from what wounded me? What did I believe about love and where did it come from? What did I really want in a man and was I ready? This is a lot …just buy the book!
Girlfriend Rule # 3 – Have Your Standards
I stopped wasting my time with the ones who did not meet “the standard” and wasn’t afraid to let them go. It seemed at the rate I was going, I wasn’t going to get married at my planned age of 25 (ironically I did!). But, I began to truly not care and trust God. I realized God more than anyone else (including myself) wanted me to be in a flourishing , happy, purpose fulfilling marriage; so I had to trust Him. I decided to establish His standard for my husband (and a few of my own) in my life.
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He had to be saved (2 Corinthians 6:14) Let me be clearer… he had to love and seek after God from His own heart. There was a time when I had to break up a relationship with my boyfriend of 5 years. I wish I could say he was a complete jerk, he was mean, had no ambition … but I can’t. He was relatively good to me, but he was not saved. When I got saved, I wanted more of Jesus and I could not let anyone or anything be a stumbling block. Breaking up with him was one of the hardest things I had to do. But I felt God’s peace and approval; that carried me through nights of crying. God had a plan for me, I didn’t know what, but I did know to trust Him and do my part.Especially as a woman, whether you chose to submit or not, you are coming under your husband’s covering and leadership. Don’t you want your husband to love you with the sacrificial love of Christ? Don’t you want him to direct your legacy into Gods best?!?!
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He had to be a servant and a leader. I didn’t recognize this at the time but in retrospect this was a huge attraction! My husband was a servant to his church and his family yet he led his life.He understood and demonstrated submitting himself to authority. In turn, ironically, it made him strong in leading his own life with a strong sense of purpose, ambition, boldness and integrity. I saw his humility, compassion and strength. Jesus said he who wants to be first must be last and servant of all.
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He had to be financially responsible and independent. I aint sayin I’m a golddigger… but I ain't messin with no …financially irresponsible man! I worked hard to have a good credit score, stay out of debit, save and learn about investments in order to have options when it came to financial wealth. I wanted a man who understood these things as well. One who was a generous giver and a good steward over what God has blessed him with. I wasn’t going to argue with my husband about tithing,saving, giving, or spending.
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He had to be attractive. Nuff said.
There is so much more we could discuss but this is supposed to be a blog not an essay! Last thing I will say is this … I couldn’t have done this without God.His deep love for me made me unafraid. His forgiveness took my shame away. His strength is perfect in my every weakness, even to this very day. Give Him everything, let Him rule over you and He will love you, teach you and show you everything you need and want.
My Husband Is Not "The One"
In the last 10 years of my life there has been one question that I have frequently been asked. “How did you know your husband was ‘THE ONE’?” For the last 10 years of my life, my answer has been the same: “He’s not”.
Let me start off by saying, I do not believe it is impossible to have a“soul mate” or “the one”. However, I also believe more often than not most people have a few “soul mates” that would meet The Godly Standard (blog coming soon) and could successfully fill the position.You may even notice a common trait (hopefully it is a good one, if not, fall on your knees to the Lord and let Him help you figure it out!) among those who interest you. I also believe with each mate comes different graces, different challenges and different lifestyles; yet all could be very satisfying.
Being the mother of a three year old girl, my emotions and intellect debate about letting her watch these princess movies. The Princess needs to be rescued by her one true love …Prince Charming. He rescues her. He kisses her. They live happily ever after (whatever the heck that means!). On the other hand, I don’t want to give her the impression that you have to kiss a few frogs (or like her mother; a few frogs, rabbits, dogs and rats LOL!) Do I want her to have this idea that is simply unrealistic? To build her relationship expectations around an unrealistic idea that cannot be measured up to?
I LOVE my husband ERNST COCHY aka @ecochy ! He is my best friend, my favorite person to talk to, to hang out with and he is my gift from God. He loves me, even when I’m not easy to love. He challenges me. He covers me. He leads my family. But he is not “the one“ who my joy is centered around, completes me or makes up my world. The idea that “Prince Charming”, “The One” or your “Soul Mate” will fill the void in your heart will lead to disappointment and pain. That void can only be filled with the satiating love and intimate relationship of God through Jesus Christ. My husband is the most powerful natural expression and manifestation of God’s love. We chose each other. We chose to forsake all others. We chose to do this thing called life together as a team and serve God.
If you are desiring a mate, I encourage you to trust and pray to your heavenly Father:
Father, thank you for rooting and grounding me in your unconditional, strengthening and fulfilling love according to Ephesians 3. I cannot live without it. Lord, I thank you for my future husband/wife. I thank you that S/he will be one after Your own heart and will be all that I need in a spouse. I thank you for this season of preparation in me. Lord, I ask you and believe You to guide me by the peace of Your Holy Spirit inside of me. All the glory of my marriage will go to you! In the name of Jesus. AMEN!
About Me
My name is Lashan Cochy and I am a PASTOR'S WIFE ...AHHHHH! Just kidding ...sort of. My life is a little more complicated than that, yet still, as complicated as that. Firstly, I am a Christian. I LOVE JESUS because He has so faithfully and fully loved me first. I didn't grow up in church but I was aware of God and wanted to understand my relation to Him. Through a series of events and mishaps I got saved in May 2001. My life has had its ups and downs but God has always been faithful; a faithfulness that has led me, thus far, to this very point. The wife of the most GREATEST man in the world and the mother of the most AMAZING little girl in the universe!
Pastor/First Lady of an AMAZING church ... LIFE CHURCH. I am a fashionista (in my head), a traveler, a foodie, moderately introverted, quite quirky and a woman still in progress.
Why am I writing this Blog?
The wives of pastors are somewhat human. We face challenges, successes and failures like everyone. I remember being one of the nicest sinners you would have known entering into a Christian life that was challenging and lonely. I desired to connect with a woman/sister/mentor who was transparent with me. Transparent about her mistakes (to help me feel like I wasn't alone), her feelings (to help know I wasn't CRAZY), her accomplishments (to let me know I can do this thing!). All the while still being honest, encouraging, spiritual and practical. My desire is to be that woman I wanted and create a forum (this blog!) where we can be this woman for each other. I recently realized we will always be a work in progress. So let's progress together!
What would you like to discuss?
Pastor/First Lady of an AMAZING church ... LIFE CHURCH. I am a fashionista (in my head), a traveler, a foodie, moderately introverted, quite quirky and a woman still in progress.
Why am I writing this Blog?
The wives of pastors are somewhat human. We face challenges, successes and failures like everyone. I remember being one of the nicest sinners you would have known entering into a Christian life that was challenging and lonely. I desired to connect with a woman/sister/mentor who was transparent with me. Transparent about her mistakes (to help me feel like I wasn't alone), her feelings (to help know I wasn't CRAZY), her accomplishments (to let me know I can do this thing!). All the while still being honest, encouraging, spiritual and practical. My desire is to be that woman I wanted and create a forum (this blog!) where we can be this woman for each other. I recently realized we will always be a work in progress. So let's progress together!
What would you like to discuss?
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