When I first read this verse I remember thinking “Yes, I have a shot! I am called by God… I have a purpose … I am important!” I was that percentage of people that did not grow up with a healthy self esteem. The ‘world’ called me many things … “too dark” “too skinny” “too big of a nose” ‘too nappy of a hair” “too ordinary to be special” “too invisible to be seen” “too typical to be waited for” and my personal favorite “too imperfect to be loved”. The ‘world’ let me know, in no uncertain terms, that I was not special enough for unconditional and unwavering love. “Love" came at a high cost. Be happy with what you get! In enters insecurity. The thing about insecurity, it hides in the crevices of your heart. It hides behind the motives of why you do the things you do. Are you getting that degree because you felt God is leading you or because you think this degree can get you a good job? Are you “delaying” the start of that business because the Holy Spirit led you or because you “know” it’s going to fail? Are you in that relationship because you feel the peace of God or because you are not worthy of better? Are you sleeping with that person because they are your spouse? Or is it because you are “doing your thing” really looking for some belonging and acceptance for the moment? Are you refusing to pursue peace with your spouse (by submitting to your husband or dwell with understanding with your wife) because you must assert and validate your stature in the marriage?
Insecurity is a bondage that will strangle you and this world out of the greatness God has planted inside of you!
One day I made a decision to believe and convince myself of God’s love for me (Ephesians 2: 4-10). His love that is unconditional, that doesn’t cost me anything, that thinks the best of me in all my mess and all my greatness, that wants the best for me and that will lead me into the best …if I trust Him. If you battle with insecurity, first thing is first, let God’s love settle you. Let His word convince you, if the world has called you:
Foolish …God chose you!
Weak …God chose you!
Nobody …God chose you!
Ugly …God chose you!
Stupid …God chose you!
Abused, exploited, and used up ….GOD CHOSE YOU!!!
God chose YOU to be good to (Romans 8:32). God chose YOU for a purpose (Ephesians 2:10). God chose YOU to succeed (Isaiah 41:10). God chose YOU to be significant on this earth (Matthew 5:13-16). GOD CHOSE YOU TO LOVE!!! (1 John 4:19).
Thank you for your clear and concise inspirational message, Lashan. (Liz)
ReplyDeleteI wonder if more people would comment, Lashan, if the 'Select profile' options included Facebook. I selected Anonymous because I don't have an account/don't use any of the other options listed. (Liz)
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DeleteHello I don't know you personal but I just wanted to comment...I have been through some rough times in this chrristian walk by people who were supposed to be brethen...I don't have any more female friends due to disagreements...there words have torn my heart in pieces and follows me like a dark shadow...how do you advise one overcomes this? I've prayed and cried many times due to this matter and its left me feeling bitter and resentful...I can't give up because I have a family to look after but what do you do when all hope seems lost?
DeleteDear Anonymous, I’m so sorry that you are going thru this tough season, but know this is only a season. All is not lost! God loves you too much for this to be it. Firstly, you must decide to forgive those who hurt you. Ask God to help you truly forgive them and He will lead you thru the process. You can start by praying for them or physically bless them (Matthew 5:44). You cannot move forward with bitterness in your heart.
DeleteSecondly, ask and believe God to heal you from this broken heart (Isaiah 61:1-3; Luke 4:18). Begin to daily speak what God has already said about you, build your confidence back in the solid foundation of His word.
Thirdly, understand that God wants you to have fulfilling relationships of all kinds. (Proverbs 18:24; Proverbs 27:17; Proverbs 17:17; Eccl. 4:9-10) However, also understand there are people in your life for different seasons and reasons. People are not perfect; we are constantly growing and learning. With this understanding ask God for good friends, especially female, and to help you to understand the reason and season of the friendships. When God begins to open opportunities for friendships move forward unafraid of getting hurt again. Can I promise you that you will never get hurt again?…no. But I can promise, if you allow God to heal you now and go thru the uneasy (sometimes painful) process, that if someone does hurt you, it won’t hurt as deep. Why? Because you are rooted in Jesus’ love for you that is unchanging and unfailing. I can also promise that you will enjoy the blessing of strong friendships that God has intended for you to have. I love you, I have prayed for you and please let me know how God is turning things around for you.
Thank YOU:') This means a lot.I will let u know how things are going.
DeleteShalom mrs.cochy. well I told you I would come back and let you know how things turned out for me. I'm the one in the comment above bout bing hurt by brethren. I now how peace in my heart. It's been two years now and the Lord has been dealing with me regarding this situation. Many times He told me to let go of the friendships and leave the past behind. I kept holding on in my heart. I have finally and truly let them go because our "friendships"were built on the wrong foundation.Thank you for your kind words in my time of need. I still don't have the sisters that I desire but all in God's time. I have to be able to be strong and able to correct. As stated two years is along time but I said I would come back so here I am lol. Once again thank you:)
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